and that's by not bringing up your wife at all. (And freeness of it.) So, yeah, I promise you, BOUND, you're not the only straight guy on Recon looking to get tied up.Īnd there's an easy way to avoid being judged because your wife doesn't know you're getting tied up by other dudes and then having to explain to strangers that you're seeking bondage play outside your marriage because your wife isn't interested in your kink and then having to explain that your activities with men present zero risk to your wife because you don't have oral or anal sex with the men you get tied up by and even if you were sucking their dicks of letting them fuck you-which you aren't-it wouldn't put your wife at risk because your marriage is sexless. They're not doing it the gaiety of it, they're not in it for the dick, they're in it (ropes, cuffs, straight jackets, etc.) just there for the bondage of it. Which is why there are lots of straight bondage guys into bondage who play with gay men. While most people prefer to indulge their kinks with others they're attracted to sexually, sometimes the kink works-turns them on-all by itself. Now I am 50 and I want to be a man of integrity in my relationship with my wife and I am not sure of the best way to move forward.īut in answer to your question: If you tie yourself up and your dick gets hard and then you jack off, your kink is definitely sexual. But I began searching for someone that would tie me up so that I couldn’t escape. I have been tying myself up since I was seven and I stopped before I turned 40 because I was tired of being able to escape and the whole thing had become a bore.
So my question for you is this: Is my desire to be tied up sexual? If so, would be getting tied by anybody other than my wife be a sexual experience?" In a video about kink discordance you said kink is sexual. One of the guys recommended I listen to you. I’m writing to you today because I still think about it all the time and I joined Recon to talk to see if someone would want to tie me up. She regretted agreeing to that and then accused me of getting assaulted and refused to look at the pictures.
About nine years later I got her permission to have a photographer from one of a male bondage website tie me up and take my pictures.
I was wrong.) I brought some rope on our honeymoon for her to tie me up with and she was upset but she tried and then she didn’t untie me for quite a while. I thought there had to be a reason that would not affect us. (Her first husband divorced her because they had too little sex. I am a 50-year-old male married for nineteen years to a female who hates sex.